Happy Sunday!
“Now the darkness only stays the night-time. In the morning it will fade away. Daylight is good at arriving at the right time. It’s not always going to be this grey. All things must pass, All things must pass away.” ~ George Harrison

Friday evening driving home in Peter’s car the George Harrison song ‘All Things Must Pass’ came on the media player.  It immediately grabbed my attention and I knew this was where my awareness had been this week – on accepting death.
I have written before about how for most of my life seeing animals dead along just broke my heart.  I used to imagine that I could come up with an engineering solution to stop this from happening.  I’ve been looking forward to hover cars hoping this would stop the slaughter.
I heard Abraham answer a question about this once and he/she said the animals don’t hold the same perspective as we do.  They are happy to just come and go, and come and go, and come and go.  I think about this a lot.  I am the one who puts the pain and sadness onto situation so for months now I just say a blessing over the little one to send them off on their journey.
This week while driving I passed a dead cat in the shoulder of the road; seeing a cat has always been a killer for me – true heart pain!  This cat was lying there with his paw over his nose, he looked perfect, adorable, and peaceful. I felt happy seeing him and I still do when I think about it.
In the last few years I have heard stories of people who either know when they are to die or, mostly yogis, choose the time.  This also makes me feel happy to hear about.
Why does it seem that death is a happy thing when it is chosen or accepted with peace?
We are also quick to say death is ‘for the best’ when someone is older and very ill.
I now see the folly in our judgment of death – it is bad when it suits us and good when it suits us.  To look at it with no judgment is to accept that it is just a transition to another stage of being like moving from childhood to adulthood.
The thoughts of my mind have played these ideas out.  I have thought about if death is an awful thing then so is growing up.  I could choose to look at the baby and childhood photos of my children and weep because my babies are gone forever, like death, those beings have moved on and are not with me now.  I don’t do that as I accept that the growth and evolution of my sons is a good thing and meant to be.  Death from the physical to the non-physical is therefore the same – good and meant to be.
After the Oklahoma City bombing years ago large concrete planters were placed around the government building I work in.  Sometimes when I would walk around the building, especially in the stair wells, I would feel panic and think of the building falling in on me.  For me as an engineer the anxiety was great, the problem with no solution.  It was a fear I held for years.
This week I was walking from the building and the idea of the building collapsing entered my mind.  I thought to myself ‘oh well, so be it’. I haven’t had the  thought of the building collapse for years, I think it returned just to be part of this week’s lesson.
When I woke up on Saturday I had the urge to listen to what Abraham had to say about dying.  Abe spoke about what I saw happen in my own life and that of my family.  When a loved one passes it teaches the one remaining that there is connection between the physical and non-physical.  The loss of one is the catalyst, it creates the desire in the living person to retain the connection with the one they loved.  Law of attraction kicks in and the spiritual path opens up for the person to learn how to build the connection with their non-physical loved one.
A person in the audio recording I was listening to asked Abraham about the deaths from the earthquake in Haiti and how we make sense of great tragedies like that.  I interpret what Abraham said is that at the soul level death comes as a choice whether it is ‘I’ve done what I set out to do’ or ‘I don’t want to do this anymore’, the person wants to be released from resistance.  Abraham calls the ‘physical’ living in the resistance and death as resistance free.
Abe said that events like Haiti or plane crashes bring death to those who are a vibrational match to the situation – there are always those who survive, leave town, or don’t get on the plane.  He/she also said that it is our perception to see the devastation in Haiti instead of connecting into the feeling of well-being from those who passed and are instantly released from resistance into their vortex of well-being.
I also watched a video of Sadhguru speaking about death.  Sadhguru spoke about acceptance.  He said we all live life with a death sentence but are not told when or how.  He spoke of the person who is told he will be hung to death in 3 weeks. (Sadhguru’s smile implied who is better off?) He said when you don’t accept death you die a million times, when you accept it you die once.
Sadhguru also said that without acceptance your life is just reactionary. When you accept you can think, take some action that may help, if not then go to die with grace.  He pointed out that many have gone to death gracefully – his implication is that we have the choice and don’t have to only react and resist. Sadhguru said that when you react to something you are enslaved by it, I can see this is true in his example of the condemned man.
Do you choose to suffer and think about dying for the last three weeks of life or do you enjoy living for the three weeks?
At lunch yesterday Peter was signing the check when I noticed that he paused and was distracted, and sad. I joked and asked if his brain had shut down.  He said he was troubled by the Russian plane bombing that occurred this week, this reminded him too much of the Lockerbie crash years ago that had troubled him for years.  I asked Peter if he was upset because of fear of flying again, sadness for those who died, or sadness for those left behind.  He said all of it.
I told him of my past panic with the thoughts of my office building collapsing and then how this week I let go of that.  I explained my belief that we transition into well-being so death may be a few moments of discomfort we go through to get there or, I told him I have heard enough stories of the spirit separating from the body that I choose to believe that would be me.  I then tried to explain to him by bringing on the anxiety with his thoughts that his body and mind are continually living the experience.  He was quiet and continued to look sad.
As we left the restaurant he held my hand so perhaps I gave him a glimpse into looking at things differently.
Namaste’
“It’s only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth – and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up, we will then begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had.” ~ Elisabeth Kubler-Ross