{"id":2113,"date":"2019-11-23T17:24:20","date_gmt":"2019-11-23T17:24:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/triciablog.luricidex.com\/?p=2113"},"modified":"2022-08-21T14:10:47","modified_gmt":"2022-08-21T14:10:47","slug":"nov-17-19","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/triciabatessmith.com:443\/index.php\/2019\/11\/23\/nov-17-19\/","title":{"rendered":"Sunday 11-17-19 Forgiveness to Wisdom"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\u201cWisdom is not in words, it is in understanding.\u201d<\/em> Hazrat Inayat Khan1<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Happy Sunday!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Earlier this week the quote above on Wisdom caught my\nattention in among the daily email newsletters of health, spiritual, and\npolitical subscriptions. I flagged it to get back to this morning. Happily,\nmore ideas regarding Wisdom have been arriving in my consciousness to give me \u2018food\nfor thought\u2019 to aid me in my reflections for this Sunday morning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThe memory without the emotional charge is Wisdom.\u201d <\/em>Dr. Joe Dispenza 2<\/em>, is a quote from a Youtube video I watched yesterday.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Father Richard Rohr podcast homily of 9-15-2019 about the parable of the prodigal son I listened to this morning. 3<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Wisdom, what is it actually? How do we get there?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dr. Joe, if you are not familiar with his current work, does a great job explaining how our beliefs, when turned into the actions, then habits, of our daily lives become our personality (my summary). Some beliefs, like those created by past trauma, are emotionally charged so we keep re-living the emotions of the event long past the time of its occurrence as within our minds we have created a system of beliefs related to the experience. Dr. Joe does great work with students on understanding how to release the emotions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, his statement about Wisdom that I have posted above, is\npoignant to me in this way; when we have had a significant event in our lives\nwe need to allow the body to process the emotion, to accept the anger, sorrow,\nbetrayal, shame, or other negative emotions and allow that energy to flow\nthrough and pass. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The past is gone. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But, it is not forgive and forget \u2026 just the FORGIVE part. I\u2019ll\nwrite more on that further down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we can just hold the memory of the experience and have\nan understanding of what happened, why we felt the way we did and why the other\nperson(s) might have acted the way they did, we gain Wisdom from the\nexperience. This allows us to act wiser during similar future events.  Or, to have the experience of an elder, to share\nwith those who might benefit from our describing of the experience \u2013 just like\nJesus using parables to teach.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the homily podcast by Fr. Rohr he read the gospel of the\nProdigal Son as he explained his thoughts on the meaning of the verses as his\nhomily. The part that stuck in my mind was at the end with the Father of the\nparable speaking with the elder son who didn\u2019t want to partake in the welcoming\nback of the younger son; the Father tries to explain his perspective on accepting\nback of the younger son. \u201cYour brother was lost and now is found.\u201d The Father\nis acting as we now describe as \u201cbeing in the Now\u201d. (How else would the\nmetaphor for God act?) He does not hold onto the past behavior, he can see and\naccept the son who is now before him. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I can only live NOW!<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

People change. We all live through experiences and can learn\nand grow. There are those, such as the younger son in the parable, who must\nreach rock bottom to be ready to release their beliefs driving their behaviors to\nthen move toward change. Fr. Rohr and many others teachers tell me that this is\nthe basis for the success of the \u201912 Step Program\u2019 utilized by AA and other\naddiction relief services. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Forgiveness breeds\nWisdom.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

For those of us who might identify with the elder brother \u2026\nhow do we get to Forgiveness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Forgiveness is the release. It\u2019s the clearing to be able to\nhold onto the memory, accept it as an experience, and to release the emotions\nthat were felt at the time of the experience. This comes from understanding.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are some tools that I have learned for gaining\nunderstanding:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Question your perspective.<\/span> A lesson I gained from A Course in Miracles was to learn to ask of myself, \u201cHow can I look at this differently?\u201d I take the time to consider the other\u2019s perspective. When I can think back to times when I made mistakes or wrong choices I recognized that I usually had good intentions, perhaps mistaken, or that I was acting out of fear. This helps me to understand that the other person may have acted the way they did by reasoning that made sense to them at the time or, that they thought would be helpful.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Be mindful.<\/span> The best teacher on this, in my opinion, is Michael Singer and he best teaches this in a lecture he gave in 2015, \u2018Mindfulness as a Way of Life\u2019 4<\/em>. He describes mindful as being present in the moment and bringing consciousness to bare. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Look for the meaning.<\/span> Another question to ask within your mind is one I have posted in black letters over my writing desk (can\u2019t remember where it came from). It is, \u201cThere is something else happening here!\u201d It prompts deeper inner investigation into what is really going on.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I have the belief that there is a lesson to everything therefore I know that there is more going on with the experience I\u2019m experiencing. This belief could easily be attributed to my accepting blindly the words of spiritual teachers who say that Life is just the Earth School. My belief is formed by the recognition that my emotions and my body send me energy signals that sometimes there is no choice but to investigate and address immediately. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If an experience happens and I feel strong emotions (sometimes even \u2018heart pain<\/a>\u2019) then this has triggered something within me. The something else that is happening is what I need to look into (by looking inward) as to why the emotion rose up within me. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why am I feeling the feelings I am about the situation? (Michael Singer is a great resource for understanding your triggers as well. 5<\/em>) <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I have spent the time reflecting on my own triggers then I can go back to reflecting on \u201chow can I look at this differently?\u201d I always gain better understanding of how the other person might have acted the way they did OR, the way that I perceived the situation. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Forgiveness comes easy with understanding. Understanding opens our hearts. When we have taken the time to reflect on OUR role, noticing OUR emotions that came from OUR triggers, we can have compassion from consideration that we may have acted the same way if we were in the other person\u2019s situation. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the blessing of forgiveness moves through us, clearing\nout the energies of the stuck emotions connected to the memory of an\nexperience, then the memory becomes a lesson learned. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Wisdom.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

1.<\/em> Hazrat Inayat Khan, Bowl of Saki 11-15-19<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2<\/em>. Dr. Joe Dispenza, \u2018Dr. Joe Q&A \u2013 Emotions\u2019 Youtube video.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

3<\/em>. Father Richard Rohr homily of 9-15-2019 on cac.org, \u201cGod running after humanity, who barely wants to be found\u201d. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

4<\/em>. Michael Singer on Youtube, 2015 lecture, \u2018Mindfulness as a Way of Life – Michael A Singer\u2019. (I can\u2019t recommend this video enough. I do recommend starting the video at over 2 minutes in to get to where Michael starts speaking.) <\/p>\n\n\n\n

5<\/em>. Michael Singer, book \u201cThe Unteathered Soul\u201d and Youtube video with the title \u2018Remove Your Inner Thorn | SuperSoul Sunday | Oprah Winfrey Network\u2019). <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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