{"id":1410,"date":"2016-02-02T01:53:23","date_gmt":"2016-02-02T01:53:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/batesonline.org\/triciablog\/?p=1410"},"modified":"2016-02-02T01:53:23","modified_gmt":"2016-02-02T01:53:23","slug":"jan-31-16","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/triciabatessmith.com:443\/index.php\/2016\/02\/02\/jan-31-16\/","title":{"rendered":"Sunday 1-31-16 ~ A Change is Coming"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cTurn and face the strange changes.\u00a0 Time may change me, but I can\u2019t trace time.\u201d ~ David Bowie<\/em>
\nHappy Sunday!
\nBig changes are coming.\u00a0 My son is going off to school.\u00a0 He will be moving out of the home for a long while.
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\n\u2026 Big changes for him and, big changes for me.
\nI feel anxious, excited, happy, sad, worried, and grateful.\u00a0 Such an example of LIFE in a single event \u2013 I am aware of the awesomeness of a milestone such as this and how it brings into play all of the Love and fear that a normal life experiences.
\nBeing a Mom, it\u2019s just a regular practice that a vast amount of humans take on.\u00a0 There is a new experience of motherhood that I must now learn. That is how to be mother to adult sons.\u00a0 I have to let them go. It is time for them to figure out life on their own, after all their lives with me being the one to put up boundaries to keep them safe and under my watchful gaze.
\nIt is time to leave the nest for both them and me.\u00a0 They are about to go outside the reach of my wingspan so there really is no need for me to sit on the nest any longer.
\nI am anxious for them as they fly away to live their adult lives.\u00a0 I do know that this is a good thing so how do I get to the place of feeling at peace about it?
\nI recall a lesson from A Course in Miracles.\u00a0 I ask \u201chow can I look at this differently?\u201d I wish to see it from my sons\u2019 perspective.
\nWhen I moved out of the home I don\u2019t remember being nervous that I would mess up; I was ready. And, looking back now the timing was just right.\u00a0 Within a year my parents had sold the house and I met my husband and was engaged to be married.
\nDoes the little bird who takes that first flight, leaving the nest to sour over the forest, ever fear the fall to the ground?\u00a0 I think the fear is just for the parent – the child just takes the leap.
\nNature gives us the courage to do what we must to move forward in our evolution.\u00a0 And the Universe supports us to fly when we act in the direction of our own evolution.
\nChange is coming \u2026
\nI fear the separation from them.\u00a0 Will they still love me?\u00a0 Will I be important in their lives?\u00a0 Will what I think, feel, and say matter to them?
\nThese are silly questions.\u00a0 I know from my own evolution that what I think, feel, and say should not matter to them \u2013 that they are characters in their own dramas.\u00a0 My thoughts and fears are about my own movie and the roles I have given them.\u00a0 They are not the characters I think they are and I cannot make them stay and play act for me.
\nI want them to grow and reflect into the world the beings they truly are. I want the mirrors of their hearts to shine forth!
\n\u201cThere must be no feeling of revenge, of unkindness, of bitterness against anyone in the heart. When such a feeling comes, one must say: this is rust coming into my heart. When all such feelings are cleared off the heart, it becomes like a mirror. A mirror without rust reflects all that is before it; then everything divine is reflected in the heart.\u201d ~ Bowl of Sake, 1-31-16, Hazrat Inayat Khan<\/em>
\nI want my heart to be rust free so that they always know my Love.
\nI know I can release my fear as I see how children love even the most terrible of parents.\u00a0 I strive for my sons to recognize my unconditional love for them and yet a part of me doubts their love for me.
\nI keep my attention on all the things I think I must do as mother: the planning, preparations, worry, teaching, and guiding.\u00a0 I need to take some time to just notice their attention toward me.
\nJust as I want to make my mother happy, my sons must also strive to please me.
\nJust I send the love from my heart out to them; they must also hope that I feel their love.
\nJust as Love and connection is so important to me I feel it must also be important to them.
\nBut \u2026 nature may have the upper hand in their young lives at this time. For a while, they will take the leap without looking back.\u00a0 God has given each of us this physical Life to experience with our human senses.\u00a0 Their attentions will be drawn in many directions as they grow independent. Nature, hormones, society, ego, evolution, and pursuit of happiness will be their focus.
\nOne day they will come back to realizing the importance of connection.\u00a0 I pray Lord that I may be an instrument in their souls\u2019 finding peace in connection to you and All That Is.
\nAs for me \u2026 what will I do with my free time ahead?
\nUse me Lord.
\nAmen.
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