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\u201cThe angels can help us to shift from fear into peace, just as easily as you change the word Scared into Sacred by rearranging the C. When you “C” the divine order and blessings within every situation and relationship, there’s nothing to be scared about . . . because it’s all sacred.\u201d ~ Doreen Virtue<\/em><\/p>\n

Happy Sunday!<\/h2>\n

I learned about a new trait in myself this week.\u00a0 A friend this week told me \u201cyou are tough\u201d.\u00a0 He was saying this in regards to my dealings with contractors on financial negotiations and contractual obligations.\u00a0 It is all about procedures for us these days as there are tight purse strings on government monies. I don\u2019t back down to excuses for not getting proper paperwork submitted before I sign to release payment.
\nWhen I took on my manager job, nearly eleven years ago now, I was afraid of any confrontation or negotiation with contractors.\u00a0 I saw them as deceitful and manipulative and myself as naive. I used to watch Dr. Phil back then; he said one thing that stuck with me that changed how I relate to contractors.\u00a0 He said a negotiation is give and take, each party gives something and each party gets something.\u00a0 Until hearing that I never thought I was due anything in negotiation; I had always just wanted to get through it without too much bleeding.\u00a0 Once I understood the give and take I was much bolder in pushing for my part and knowing what I could release.
\nI was in meeting this week with political officials. There is one local official that runs on too much and doesn\u2019t listen.\u00a0 After the meeting my boss came over and said \u201cyou are his worst nightmare!\u201d What did I do? I corrected the mis-information he was spreading around the meeting.\u00a0 I gave him facts over his assumptions.\u00a0 Then, as he continued to speak off topic, I shut up.
\nI went into this meeting prepared with lots of support.\u00a0 I had my Angels all lined up to keep me in order.
\nAngels are my thing right now thanks to Doreen.\u00a0 I\u2019ve been using some of her meditations in the morning to prepare for my day and bring me into alignment.\u00a0 It is wonderful to be reassured of all the support that is around us.\u00a0 The other day she used the phrase \u2018divine confidence\u2019 in one of her affirmations.\u00a0 It really stuck with me because I have been looking for a term to call this strength that I feel.
\nI know this is a slippery slope. I watch and try to catch myself so I don\u2019t go too far and let my ego take over.\u00a0 It is not my intension to ever be hurtful or unkind. I have large responsibilities so I want my work to be respected and my opinion to matter. But, I know that I can get stuck on a perception that may need to be opened up broader like when I have missed an issue or don\u2019t understand the impacts my work has on others.
\nThis is where the praying helps. I rely heavily on the Holy Spirit, Angels, my guides, whoever it is that is putting the thoughts in my head to look at something differently or to just shut up.
\nI had another meeting this week with a contractor reviewing invoices. I was prepared with receipts and pay rolls to support my point of being overbilled.\u00a0 This contractor is someone I have worked with for years so we have a good relationship. As we were finishing up he said to me, \u201cI guess you\u2019ll be celebrating all the back to your office now\u201d.\u00a0 I was surprised to find out that he felt he wasn\u2019t coming away from our negotiation with any gains.\u00a0 I told him my understanding of \u2018negotiate\u2019 as I mentioned above. I realized that I had a couple other items on my list that I didn\u2019t bring up, I was going to argue the cost of these as well but had decided to leave them alone as the meeting progressed (I guess I realized too that I had the upper hand). I told him of these items.\u00a0 I hope that he felt comfortable with our negotiation as he left as I did.
\nDo I want to say \u201cI am tough\u201d and identify with that? No
\nI can say \u2018I act tough\u2019 which sounds a bit better but instead I think I will say of myself,
\n\u201cI act with divine confidence!\u201d
\nAmen
\n\u201cWith realization of one\u2019s own potential and self-confidence in one\u2019s ability, one can build a better world.\u201d ~ Dalai Lama<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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