“The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.” ~ Albert Einstein

Happy Sunday!

Yesterday I was watching on Youtube a conference given by Bashar.  During the Q&A session a woman asked why she was having so many struggles with moving into the person she wants to be.  Bashar’s short answer to her was that she had to evaluate the beliefs she had that were holding her back.  He further elaborated sensing that the woman did not understand; I was grateful that he did because I too had this question about how to transcend to be my better self.
Bashar first explained that it is a law that we always move toward what we prefer.  This means that either we prefer our current behavior because we recognize it serves us or that we hold a fear (due to a belief) that the life we want will cause pain.  He explained to the woman that the life she wants is her preferred life so how can it hold any pain because it is the life that she prefers.  He left her with the advice that she needs to evaluate her beliefs to understand their mis-perception, to then be able to move forward.
For a long while now I have wanted to transcend being judgmental of others.  I have gotten good at being aware of when I am acting this way.  I cannot say if I catch my self every time but as I am aware of it several times a day (and evaluate if I am doing well or not based on whether the judging words leave my mouth before caught) I am going to say that I’m heading in the right direction.
I am going to use this morning to reflect on my own beliefs that may be holding me back from transcending judgement.  Here are the questions I have developed to aid me in my reflection:
Does it serve who I am now to be judgmental of others?
Is there a belief that I hold about my preferred evolved self that I fear, that I think will cause pain?
Onto the first question: does judgement serve me?
I do perceived judgement as a negative act.  When I need to compare one thing against another to make a decision I prefer to call that evaluation.  For me this type of consideration doesn’t go deep, it is about a trait or property of a object or person.  “I like tabby cats more that calico cats”, for example.  Judgement is classifying the whole being ie. “that is a bad cat”.
Judgement has been with me a long time and did serve me in the past to help me feel good about me by my judging myself to be better than another.  “I am better than ____ so I am worthy.”
Age seven is called the “age of reason”. I recall when studying child development that at seven children are able to classify and sort objects, items, lists, and I am thinking also people.  By this age we have been in school for a couple of years and have begun to receive criticism or comparisons from teachers and parents that may give us the message that who we truly are is not going to work for us here on Earth.  Our brain’s development then brings us this new tool of classification and what do we do with it?  I think that we use this tool to take us from being told only how we don’t fit in to now comparing for ourselves where we fit and where we don’t – the birth of judgement!
Do I need this tool anymore?  No, I know that I am whole and worthy just as God made me and that together we are working toward evolving All That Is (and I know this about everyone and everything else).  Judgement is just an old habit that may be hard to break.
OK, onto the second question: Is there a belief I hold about my evolved, non-judgmental self that is fearful so I don’t prefer this right now?
Yes there is a clear belief and it is the same one the woman who asked the question of Bashar had; I believe that I will loose connection with those I love.
Why do we believe this?  I always think back to the New Testament and it saying a prophet cannot be accepted in his home town.  But as I think about Jesus , he did have his loved ones near him.  His mother was there through his life.  I have now learned that James was his brother and took on forming of the early Christian Church.  Also, as I think on those people I consider wise in our current times I don’t see any of them being alone, they seem to be surrounded by people.
It has been tough changing to the point I am at.  When I first woke up I thought I could just tell what had touched me and those I love would get it just the same.  When they didn’t then I could just focus on the differences – this was a period of struggle with connection.
Fortunately lessons kept coming so I have had to learn that all individuals are part of the whole and that each experience by each individual is a contribution to All That Is.  I see the growth in our culture and on our planet; the good and bad are symbols of the change.  As I have learned to release that I am special because of my change and can see that everyone is changing, I am continually awestruck and joyful for the Grace and compassion I witness in my loved ones.  There are still things I want to say but I am learning that supportive quiet is good most times and when words are needed I will know it.
Bashar gave further advice to the woman who asked the question which was that we best serve those we love by moving into our whole true selves and being an example that they can also choose to be their true selves.  It is not selfish to choose a life of joy because others will see and know that it is possible as well as, know that it is a choice they can choose to make for themselves.
I feel more peaceful right now with the word and idea of judgement that I have held.  It was a tool that once served me that I no longer need.  And, I have clarity in the life I want is the life I prefer.
Namaste’
“I alone cannot change the world, but I can cast a stone across the waters to create many ripples.” ~ Mother Teresa